Myth of the ADD Child and More.
A Letter to Parents:
I am the mother of a 14 year old boy and a 9 year old boy who both have
My oldest child has been a promising artist since he was introduced to
drawing in Kindergarten by a teacher who was convinced that he was a
special student. This teacher thought he was probably bored in class
because he wasn't challenged enough by the kindergarten curriculum. She
recommended him for the Gifted and Talented Program in his school. The
director of this program tested him and told me in a form letter that he
did not fit the profile of a gifted and talented student. He wasn't
excelling in all his subjects at an equally high rate and he wasn't focused
and driven to achieve. I was surprised at how she came to this conclusion
with one meeting with my son. My son said he didn't want to be in that
program anyway because he would be treated differently by everyone. The
matter was dropped.
In third grade he started having problems in class. His work was good,
but his behavior, according to the teacher was unacceptable. Let me
remind you that third grade means 8-9 year old children. He talked to
other students when he wasn't supposed to. That included lunch time, which
should give you an idea how unreasonable the demands of teachers and school
rules can be. He played in class. He drew pictures on his work. He
didn't listen to directions. I received notes from the teacher every week.
He was suddenly a problem child.
Now, I had not considered him a problem at all, but I talked to him and
suggested that he try to do as the teachers asked. Eventually, ADD was
brought up by this teacher and she sent home a list of characteristics, of
which my child had a great many. I was told that he should be evaluated by
a psychiatrist to see if he was ADD. Fortunately, the school had no
program to back up this recommendation and my child never had to see a
psychiatrist, though, on many occasions the third grade teacher suggested
that Ritalin was the answer. When I pulled my head out of the sand and
started looking at this situation, I realized that this teacher, like so
many others, couldn't handle children who act like children. Her own
child was on Ritalin as I found out later.
In the years since third grade it has been a battle to stave off the
psychiatric influence in school. I eventually removed my son from public
school in 7th grade and he is a much happier individual. It is a crime
that teachers who would like to rely on drugs to control their students are
even allowed to teach our children. If I sound like I am against
Psychiatry, you better believe it. Anyone who passes themselves off as
help and then hands out mind altering drugs to people, especially innocent
children, are criminals as far as I am concerned. Psychiatry and it's
drugs are not an option.
My other son who is now 9 years old is also a great artist, but his
activity level is far greater than my oldest son. He would be considered a
classic ADHD and believe me Ritalin was suggested for him by several
teachers. He is all over the place most of the time. In Kindergarten
through half of third grade I was getting notes and calls every other day,
until we moved to a new school. He is in 4th grade now and doing very well,
mainly because he has a teacher who knows children and loves children. She
knows how to teach with a positive attitude and he loves her. His third
grade teacher was the same way. He hardly ever gets into trouble now The
only thing that is different are the teachers. He and I didn't do anything
different. So what do you think was the problem? To my mind, the
teachers who squawk all the time about a child being a problem are doing
nothing but squawking.
In the last 4 months I have discovered that I can help my child control
himself with vitamins and nutrition. He takes a multivitamin formula for
children. They make the claim it is intended for children who are active.
I can really see a difference in his behavior. He is still the same
sweet, funny, spontaneous, smart boy he always was. He can control himself
better and can choose when to act "wild", rather than being at the mercy of
My advice to anyone with children is:
Get a good nutrition book to help you find what vitamins and nutrients your
child needs. Remember, we are all different, even in our vitamin
requirements, so the RDA (Recommended Daily Allowances) don't
necessarily suite everybody. Also the RDA is "minimum" to avoid
malnutrition, not for optimum health.
And most importantly, don't buy the lie that psychotropic drugs are going
to help your child do better in school and in life. If they are on them
get them off now and if they aren't on them yet, don't ever let anyone put
your child on them. They are dangerous. Even the most out of control
child will be better off if you find some other way to help them.
Feel free to Email me.